Last October I set off in search of a place in the wild west
of Ireland so I could live something of an idyllic ‘writers’ dream. I wanted to
find a place with the Atlantic Ocean only a stone’s throw away with the wind always
howling in the background. I wanted to be there, where the clouds would always be
rolling, breaking without warning above the green fields and the scattered tiny
cottages.
I flocked – even though I wasn’t part of a herd of sheep –
to the wild side so as to experience something I’d envisioned as being pure
freedom of expression and creativity.
Years ago, I always thought I’d only follow that dream
through, in 20 or 30 years from now… Well, needless to say, that dream came
true a lot sooner than I’d expected at the grand age of 29! It’s true what they
say: ‘ask and you shall receive’. And I did! So… who I was to question whether
it was right or wrong, when the cottage in Athenry came falling from the sky,
saving me gracefully, answering my request and providing the perfect setting
for me to sit and write like there’d never be a tomorrow! I didn’t question!
Instead I jumped at the chance! And by god, I’m delighted I did.
At the start of November I moved in, I created that space of
expression, I worked hard, I wrote like there’d never be a tomorrow (or even a ‘later
on’). Suddenly, when I reached the end of creating, I realized there WAS a ‘later
on’… and there’d definitely be a tomorrow! But life didn’t seem to be light or
bright if those tomorrows were going to be taking place in that space in the
wild west!
That’s when suddenly a ‘scheduled’ 7 months turned into a
perfect 3 month period; as the clearing work was complete (by ‘clearing work’ I
mean: putting my deepest pains and lessons, once again, into ‘story format’). Along
with finishing the writing, something else unsettled me: the cold that had
seeped its way into my seemingly cosy cottage and further through the pours in
my skin, taking up residence deep inside my bones to result in a level of tension
and negativity that made it almost impossible for me to live, flow and simply love
life in every way.
Both factors – the ‘end of clearing’ and the ‘nestling cold’
– coaxed me to open the door to the world beyond the cottage and take a peek at
what else’s available. So I opened the door… mentally 3 weeks ago. But literally
last Friday.
I opened it to find the ‘moving crew’ I’d called for help! Well,
that crew was my mam and her car! But that was MORE than enough; I’d hardly anything to pack (it actually only took me only 3 hours on Friday morning to box
everything and clear things up!). We’d filled her car by lunchtime and I said
farewell to that chapter of my life. It was the easiest thing; no stress or
regrets or torture on any level!
Once we’d made our way across the country and landed in
Arklow, unloading the car and filling up my tiny little box room in my mam’s
house with (still only) the few boxes of things I’ve accumulated over the past
years, was effortless. All in a day’s work! Literally.
The following morning I woke up and I thought I’d landed
myself in heaven. I couldn’t believe how my perspective totally changed! I was
suddenly able to MOVE… not only into the next chapter of my life but also freely
around the house without the cold pushing me to ONLY sit curled up in a blanket
almost 24 hours a day! I never realized how all-consuming it can be to live in
a cold home nor how restrictive life can become. Since then, I’ve been physically releasing the
cold from deep within my bones and because it was nestled, letting it
go has made me feel partially re-energized, but also drained and in need of sleep,
sleep, sleep and more sleep. So, since landing in Arklow, that’s what I’ve been
doing: re-fuelling, reheating and relaxing.
Looking back, Athenry already feels like a different
lifetime. I’ll never be sorry for the experience! No way. It was perfect. I HAD
to live that dream so I could wake myself up the reality: such a secluded
existence isn’t necessarily an idyllic one. We have to try different styles of
living, to realize if they’re for us or not. Every person is different. And at
different times in our lives, different lifestyles can feel more fitting. From
my own perspective, for the winter of 2012 it was fitting and for the spring of
2013 it no longer was. So I made it happen at the right time in my life. If I’d
not have followed it through, I’d have felt this past year in Ireland to have fallen
short of such a unique experience.
As well, I’ve learned there aren’t any laws or rules stating
HOW or WHERE a story should be brought into form. It can be done anywhere in
the world, in any situation and can take however long a person needs. Because if
the intention to write sits within the heart of a person, and if that person is
tuned-in to that space, then it won’t matter what else is happening, or where
they may be: the writing will need to unfold either way. I realize there’s no escape. And I'm happy, relieved and elevated in that realization.
No matter how much I force myself to stay in one place, or how envision and
pursue the dreams of travel; the writing will simply always be there.
In having said that, I know it’s not who I AM. But it's merely a
form of self-expression that elevates and cleanses. So I’m no longer going to delude
myself into thinking that it’s ‘all’ I’m good for in this world. Thinking along
those lines, means I’m limiting myself and losing a spark of life from inside.
And this is exactly what I’ve been feeling for months: a missing spark. Therefore,
when life came knocking on the cottage door telling me to come out and play again, I
felt it was time to explore other aspects of myself. And I am. I’m moving
onwards in to the light and operating from a brighter space in my mind. That can
only mean that my physical reality will reflect the light I feel I’m rekindling
inside again.